Aita for publicly humiliating my grieving uncle 15M subscribers in the AmItheAsshole community. I went to the funeral, even though I didn't have to. My great uncle died on Christmas Day (car lost control outside church and plowed the crowd, he saved my aunt's life and my mom's, but man vs car isn't good, especially 60+ years ago). The one who is doing work for his dad is the one who yelled at me. After my dad saw the messages, he got very mad and fired my uncle and stopped giving allowance to those that harassed me. I AITA for publicly humiliating my boyfriend . But it's not your uncle's fault that your dad never told you. Even something like "I am currently grieving my uncle, and am not in a headspace 16 years ago my uncle was made the executor for my grandfathers will that I and 9 other of my cousins are a beneficiary of. My grief was my responsibility. it has taken me time to get comfortable with knowing i can go through her things. He wanted to die at home, and despite having amazing hospice carers supporting us, it meant my family did a lot of the caring. Grieving my great grandmother was different than grieving my grandmother, which When my family learned that I was responsible, they had kicked me out, forbidding me from ever seeing them or my children again. The The day after my dad died, my uncle has this long, self pitying message on facebook about "how hard losing a younger brother is" and "how difficult the last few months have been". I think that it can make me the arsehole that I was expecting him to have a gift and the way I was treating him following up the events. Subscribe for more recent stories from the internet!#reddit #redditstories #subreddit #aita #shortstory #story "AITA for “publicly humiliating” my SIL?" I (30s F) got married to my husband (30s M) this July. He died August 2011 and the next day my aunt and uncle came down to visit and give condolences. I hate to see my AITA For Avoiding my Toxic Uncle? For context; I have an uncle (my dad's older brother) who has always had a weird obsession with my level of masculinity, as well as masculinity in AITA for publicly humiliating my neighbor for walking her dog? Not the A-hole I (20F) moved into a neighborhood with a lot of drama in June 2021. I joined the club from my previous club, and got onto the first team, which a The third time was the last straw for me. I turned 18 three months ago and my grandparents reached out. No cards. NAH. he’s actually undoubtedly saving him a incredibly public humiliation. My Dad died as I was 2, I just have some pictures with, but not memories with him. Around 2 weeks ago, my uncle’s kidney problems became very bad. My uncle uses social media to slander my family very often, always making himself look better than he actually is. They show up at the funeral and don’t speak to anyone. Once we left the restaurant and got home my daughter yelled at me saying “I am ruining her life” and that “I had no right to publicly humiliate her like that”. Anyway, I told her that grieving her dog is not the same as grieving my husband. I would have forfeited the love of my life for him if I knew he was in love with her first, just because is him. My uncle's wife burst out laughing. She and my grandfather escaped Cuba in the 80s and worked tirelessly to get their kids (my mom and uncle) out too. It was so sudden and so heart-wrenching. My uncle has a history of this, all of my dads other siblings are all blocked on Facebook as well. His friends love this Type of humor so it’s come up with us a few times. The point was there was most likely more going on than the husband is letting on with is what I was getting at. (Also, i had just gotten a hysterectomy at the time for medical reasons and my aunt made some weird comment to my mom about how i was wasting my purpose as a woman and how i could've been a surrogate for them (vomit). I was devastated since I was close with him The fact I don't see the need to see my dying uncle even though most of my relatives think I should. When my grandma died we went to her house to pay our respects - there was maybe about a dozen people there. A card is fine. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. Mom's no longer in the picture, having left my uncle for someone else. I love my brother a lot, but he knows that if he had ever made a move in one of my girlfriends, he would have ceased to be a brother to me, and that's only the beginning of it. As part of this, my cousin is currently fighting with the DA to get my uncle's motorcycle returned so he can chop it up and make the memorial out of it. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action of expressing condolences through a text format and a gift compared to a vocal form. My other family members reached out as well I’m Canadian and my family never charged me or my siblings rent for living at home even as adults for a time after university. You not crying doesn't mean you aren't' sad. If someone ever murdered my children or my parents, I would be out for blood. original sound - Reddit Stories And Moments. It baffles me that anyone thinks it’s appropriate to tell a grieving family member that they can’t say goodbye to someone. I was obviously devastated by this this loss, we were good friends but I'm admittedly not on good terms with his widow. . My parents stayed together. Excessive coffee drinking and avoiding bathrooms is a recipe for disaster. Bro has never faced any grief My non biological nephew died when he was seventeen. I’ve had numerous conversations with my SO about “trolling” and “pranks”. I (47F) My aunt and uncle sent some nasty texts but I ignored her while my mom kept going on about how heartbroken Jane was. I was so happy and I had a beautiful dress on. She's upset and refusing to talk to me now. (Because they didn't "respect themselves" and something something jesus) People then used that video to track down his employer, a self proclaimed Christian company, who then fired him for being an ass. They’re so supportive it’s awesome. Maybe she needed to be put into grief counseling. Plenty of people who consider being left-wing 'stupid' because they think everybody secretly feels like they individually deserve more than the rest and as such society shouldn't be burdened with the 'people who can't keep up' and 'I shouldn't pay for losers' etc, and they 'are Seeing that my uncle was continuing to provoke my dad by talking excessively loud and giving him bad looks, I stood up from the living room and stood next to my dad to try to calm things down. Couple minutes later my aunt has a go at both me and my mum, saying what an awful bully I am (bear in mind she just her daughter verbally abuse me) for "humiliating" her daughter. his friends have use their “trolling” 43 votes, 22 comments. That they let their grief make them react horribly to the news when they never should have treated me that way. It was brutal for the family - he survived five years on the ground in WWII, including Juno Beach on D-Day and the liberation of the Netherlands, only to die in front of the family parish. Fat, ugly, stupid, my clothes, everything. In all my years I Posted by u/atheistvegeta - 75 votes and 76 comments I feel like she's not even considering my own grief process. But my loss is new to me too and I guess I just got frustrated with how different we're dealing with our losses. Towards October of 2018, my mother had her fourth stroke out of the blue and had to be rushed to the ER, I took off work for a couple weeks during this time, which led to being let I posted about my now ex-gf humiliating me at a packed bar, revealing to drunk strangers that I use a cock sleeve for her. AITA? P. They've been divorced now for over 20 years and my mom is still hung up on this line of thinking that she was dumb, she was naive, she should have known etc. AITA for refusing to pay for my niece’s college after she publicly humiliated me? 744 · 2046 comments . After about an hour, my uncle looked at me and said Also love how the family thinks OP is “airing dirty laundry” by calling out her uncle for his mistress, but him printing and publicly showing images of her is apparently fine. Also those been pubescebt hormones AITA for not grieving my recently deceased aunt? My dad’s oldest sister was one of two, out of the seven of them, who was sent to residential school. I get her anger at her sister for making her feel like a child by going to their parents, and for making those distasteful jokes for years after. My cousin is always shocked and upset each and every time he cheated on her. AITA? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. One point of contention is his room. TikTok video from Reddit Stories And Moments (@reddit. OP’s mom sounds a lot like my uncle. Your father's behavior is not normal. I was 15 when she died. AITA for Leaving My Girlfriend at a Party After She Publicly Humiliated Me? Am I the A hole for walking out of the party after my girlfriend publicly humiliated me or am I just too sensitive like she says. He does live at the house. I My (F26) sister Anne (F30) recently got her 30 birthday. A stock photo of a teenage girl with her fingers in her ears, ignoring her mother. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! For some context before I start, I was SA'd consistently by my step grandad, Rupert, for almost a decade. My dad died 2 years ago. To make a long story short my uncle was not receiving the proper care for his cancer as he was out of country for about the last 8 months. the subject matter is not restricted, so you can post what you really want to AITA for driving a pickup truck and humiliating a girl who gave me grief for it? so trucks and SUVs are about all I can be comfortable driving. We had a good relationship she used to bring us cookies, help us with stuff when we moved and even introduced us to the other neighbors. Also I’d like to add that my uncle has a superiority complex, is [Update] AITA for “humiliating” my husband? AITA Originally posted in r/AITAH. They took advantage of my grief and were happy to let me pay for their stuff. I get her anger at her sister for making her feel like a child by going to their parents, and for making those distasteful jokes for Ben and my husband didn't have a ride home and my husband kept calling me but I didn't respond. AITA for not selling my car even though my fiancée refuses to sit in the front seat because my ex sat there? her bio mom whos been gone 8 years now. Our wedding theme was “Faerie court”. My first exposure of his friendship group was a call from the self-assigned 'leader' of the group, F. My grandma literally laughed at me for 'not taking a joke'. My husband and I went to grief counseling so that we wouldn’t inadvertently put our grief on others and to help us get through that time. He sucks for taunting about a dog. My dad agrees with this, saying I should just be stoic to the guy when I visit. This is a AITA for not mourning my uncle more . I'm F 20. We're still grieving, which lowers out contact with a lot of people, including my sister and BIL. I used to cry whenever she was with me because she didn't had me any patience, she never tried to get into my hobbies or interest, if I had to spend time with her, In return, the son needs to be a breadwinner and support his parents and family. So, she’s “nominated” my uncle to be the photographer. Oh god yes, this is a whole thing in Dutch society now (and probably other countries as well), tied into politics. an issue is that my uncle has a problem communicating with my dad about the things she No one has given a fuck until this point. After days of getting harassed by their messages, I snapped and decided to tell my dad about it. Also I completely agree with you. Grief lasts a very long time when it concerns an immediate family member and even once the grief has faded, you still think about them everyday. The sudden loss put my mom into such grief I wasn't sure she'd recover. true AITA for publicly humiliating my neighbor for walking her dog? Not the A-hole I (20F) moved into a neighborhood with a lot of drama in June 2021. My boyfriend had rejected F's offer to go to the gym at 10:30pm, saying he was tired and the friend responded "oh you're at that bitches' house". The action that I took that I feel should be judged was questioning my uncle if he had a present for my mother. He I texted my cousins to express my condolences and told them to pass on my message to my uncle, he doesn't have a cellphone of his own. Before the grand My daughter was beside herself, so I gathered her and my husband, and we left. stories. I suspect in that family it’s only a sin if it’s a woman committing it. the subject matter is not restricted, so you can post what you really want to I(19m) live with my dad since my mom cheated on him with my uncle. At dinner, grandpa started asking Aria about her plans for college. Nothing minus my one uncle who doesn't even live in the same state as the rest of us. He had affairs and flings. And asked my mom and MIL if i could use their first names as middle names for my youngest. My husband (M34) and I have been together for 8 years, In this Reddit AITA story, a person refuses to pay for their niece's college tuition after being publicly humiliated by her. My grandma flew in about a week ago from Mexico (we currently live in the US) to be with my uncle who is staying at my house along with my two parents (my mom being his sister) and my 2 siblings. I (26f) have am my mom's (54f) child and only daughter to my dad who she met after breaking up with my uncle "Bob" (53m) who had cheated on her with my aunt "Jane" (51f) and was pressured into marriage by their parents finding out Jane was pregnant with my cousin The subreddit all about the world's longest running annual international televised song competition, the Eurovision Song Contest! Subscribe to keep yourself updated with all the latest developments regarding the Eurovision Song Contest, the Junior Eurovision Song Contest, national selections, and all things Eurovision. I'm sorry but I played a light joke on her when she has literally bullied me for years for everything she could think of. We’ve #reddit #voiceover #r/AmItheAsshole #subreddit She gave her whole life for her family. My eldest is now 14 and has this jackass attitude with me. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I ended up having a breakdown and quitting my job earlier this year so I could deal with my grief, finally. She has work from home her whole life but even then, she never tried to get to know me or spend time with me, every time she taught me something it was filled with emotional a-use. He came home asking about me leaving mid wedding and upsetting his sister and My daughter was beside herself, so I gathered her and my husband, and we left. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: not defending my wife and causing her to miss the funeral 2) at the end of the day, she’s my wife and she had her reasons for insisting on bringing the baby. Apparently, after we left, my uncle was ranting and raving, and eventually my cousin (F24) - not his child - told Now, D used to train at the second team of this club, and he was there for more than 4 years, and ended up leaving. I think the implication of the whole post is that the friend is a salesperson who does have technical experience, like Op and unlike the boyfriend, and so could/would appreciate the fact that the boyfriend finally had his bullshit called out, but I'm not entirely sure. during her funeral i was too distracted to even consider going through her things, i also felt i was invading her space and being disrespectful i wasn’t ready for that. 2) I think it might be making me an asshole because my grieving is taking it's toll on other people; my mom and partner. I'm in my late 40s. I think that while mom is awful, that uncle is even worse. I Previously it had been about 7 years since we had seen or spoken to my uncle. My brother and I always had a close bond, and I was also In a now-viral post, a man said he berated his brother at a family gathering over a "cruel" birthday gift presented to his "grieving" wife. Then she passed away and they would not respond to my mom and planning services or anything. ” My mom had to force Seriously. My stepmum is honestly some kind of superhero for everything she did Posted by u/atheistvegeta - 75 votes and 76 comments Previously it had been about 7 years since we had seen or spoken to my uncle. AITA for telling my dad that he chose his new family and he needs to leave me and my sister alone. Everyone in my family is going but the truth is this . When my family was grieving for my grandpa, my aunt was acting in a way that was weirdly hostile. The murderer should feel as much pain as you felt. I can get grief making you do things you normally wouldn’t because it happened to me. I fear that in my attempt to teach her a lesson about talking to strangers, I might have gone too far. The other Uncle is out of the country at the moment. People who can remember your loved one's humanity and all the ways they were amazing, and who can My fiance is definitely mad and called me an a-hole because of it. I yelled at my grieving ex and told her to stop trying to make our kids act like grieving kids. I spoke to my dad like many of you suggested, and told him the truth about what my childhood was like due to his emotional absence. I'm like the only responsible person in my family and raising my two other siblings' kids. This shit is still happening in 2019. I assumed our child (6F) had had an accident, but when I checked where the wetness came She's supposed to come here after court tomorrow. Maybe it was my fault that the my mum has no family now. They had known her most, if not all, of her life. Unfortunately my youth and inexperience had me wondering why she wasn't "getting over it" as quickly as the rest of us. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! The last interaction I had with my aunt and uncle was a big fight on facebook which is a whole saga on it's own of ignorance and disrespect. Just because AUTOMOD The following is a copy of the above post. #amitheasshole #redditstories #redditupdate Where Would I be the butthole for not bringing my baby to see my husband's extended family because they ignored My family now wants to make amends so they can be part of our lives. my 16 year old daughter begged that I go with her to the funeral because she said she doesn't know anyone there and needs my support and guidence. My family was concerned at my lack of visible grieving when my pop died 3yrs ago. (5-12) My uncle, I'll call him Mike, and my grandma, Nichole, knew about my step-grandads history, he had been arrested before for child SA, had been to therapy for it and had be an offender for 2 decades before even I was even born. F says he "has an aura that causes everyone to obey him" un-ironically. He asked if I could get it back for him since the coordinator is my uncle. When my uncle passed i asked my aunt if i could give my daughter his middle name for one of her middle names because he had passed not too long before. Over the past 16 years he has delayed in doing his duty of selling the house or supplying any sort of information on the financial status of my inheritance, he refuses on multiple occasions to give me paperwork and has said he can do whatever he likes with the AITA for “humiliating” my husband? Trigger Warnings: adult bed-wetting Original Post - Nov 30, 2023. After my mother passed away in 2017, they’d often call to talk about her with what I still believe were good intentions, but our conversations often turned sad quicklyand it seemed like they were encouraging active grieving over the phone. We only invited close family and friends, and asked that they wear jewel toned dresses Posted by u/atheistvegeta - 75 votes and 76 comments "AITA for humiliating my husband by leaving his family party, because I will always teach my kids that no means no?" I believe in teaching my kids no means no under ANY circumstances. Until last year when my uncle invited me to watch a movie in the theater, but he wasn't alone, he had a girl with him who wasn't his wife, I'll call her Marbella 1. Causing my mum's sister to go NC with her. Just because Anyways, they spent a bunch of money on fertility treatments before eventually using an egg donor. He's also by far the laziest of all my lazy family. But if true, it would be more like Op sharing the story with someone who would appreciate it, and not just Op looking for an Posted by u/Throw9076746 - 15,778 votes and 1,756 comments Anyway, I turned 18 three days ago. Was their decision justified, or AITA for answering my mother's husband harshly and humiliating him during a family party? If he didn't want to be publicly humiliated then he should have talked to you in a private setting. moments): "Reddit - AITA for publicly humiliating my uncle? ##fyp##amitheahole##foryou##storytime##redditreadings##stories##redditstoriestts##redditstories##reddit". My husband and I (both 30) lost our best friends, Mason and his wife, Kate, two weeks ago in a horrible car accident. Think about the train wreck of a failed proposal in the middle of the wedding reception. Then I told him that if he wanted to start being a dad again, he was going to have to earn that title from my brother, and earn trust from me before I felt comfortable enough to just hand over the reins to him. repost because I forgot to reply to the bot the first time But if being humiliated in public is going to cause you to have a panic attack, you shouldn't set up a situation where the OP probably deleted after she got eviscerated in the comments. I got to watch the light drain from mt dads eyes over the years after my brother died. Still see my uncle every few weeks but only because he lives with my grandparents and I don't want to go NC with them. I mentioned that he is my hero — this is just the icing on the cake. They immediately started asking me who was going to walk me down the aisle at my upcoming wedding and suggested my uncle take my dad's place. Over the past 16 years he has delayed in doing his duty of selling A tale as old as time. Joke on her, my dress was gold and shimmery, and The subreddit all about the world's longest running annual international televised song competition, the Eurovision Song Contest! Subscribe to keep yourself updated with all the latest developments regarding the Eurovision Song Contest, the Junior Eurovision Song Contest, national selections, and all things Eurovision. I was (28F) woken up this morning because the sheets I was lying on were wet. He's about 15k in debt to my grandmother, and doesn't seem to like us much but wants our help. This comment is a record of the above post as it was originally written, in case the post is deleted or edited. Your niece sucks for expecting people to take care of a AITA for telling my friends that my husband isn’t well read? Asshole Background: My husband (let’s call him Will) is in the Navy, and he works on nuclear reactors on submarines. Please get help. My grandparents dealt with their grief to be there for my uncle and my cousins who were 3. post your stories inquiring if you are or would be the asshole. My uncle's wife is practically a slave, and yet my gran loathes her and constantly gossips about how much better my uncle could have done (though he married her when she was 18 and he was nearly 30). Not the A-hole TLDR in comments I understand you're grieving. His birth mother checked out when he was around two years old. What matters most is that you acknowledged their grief, pain, and loss. Probably there are 1000 times more spouses who cheat, than My brother (39) is bi and divorcing his wife. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I had a fight with my uncle and I don’t think I Please watch out for people that will try to take advantage of you, as you are grieving. 99% of the time it's not wrong to acknowledge an individual's grief at a family death. I told my parents what I did and my other sister, Emma, the one who lives with us, said I was an AH for calling CPS on my grieving birth family. My whole family adored Lana as though she was biologically one of us. repost because I forgot to reply to My fiance tried yo get me to calm down after I stood up but I got more pissed and told his friend publicly that he was uninvited from the wedding then took my stuff and went home. It wasn’t really OKAY that she acted like that, but it was also an unpredictable time and The teen's family wants them to apologize to their uncle, but they are refusing. I spoke to my uncle and he said he knew After we left my dad said I really should just have gone back to change my t-shirt, and now he's getting shit from my uncle for allowing me to wear the t-shirt in the first place. Aria told him that she will be staying on campus. S. The issue started a couple of months ago when Lacey started her period. " My aunt was angry and hurt at them that they demanded she give them my cousin that she lied and said she already aborted him. He is a jerk (imo) and that is why my other Uncle asked me to watch the animals and not him. This guy doesn’t care about his family. You need My sister has been a big help in raising Lacey, and we do keep in contact with her maternal grandparents. But here's the lesson: 99. Each new grief you gain is a new learning experience because the pain is different. After my Mom said my behavior was disgraceful and argued I was wrong in most of the points I made and called me judgemental and bitter to decide to guilt Rachel for "stepping up" to take on a role of the mother and said I was selfish to judge my grieving sister and brother inlaw after I questioned the length of their relatioship cause if this was AITA for yelling at my grieving mom? AmItheAsshole Original (deleted) throwaway1010_10 10981 2021-07-12 13:38:23 My(17M) mom(46) wanted to reconcile recently, I live with my Grandparents since I was 8. If Jack sent him a message, Leo would just ignore it unless it had something to do with me (for example, he would only reply if Jack asked him to tell me something because he couldn't reach me, etc). I gave her a look begging her to stop. I view these services as a private time to grieve my loss, and refused to have my picture taken when requested. This is a 4. She thought that that would make her pop I guess (she is an attention seeker, by testimony of everyone but her mom). I moved in with my mom and her boyfriend On the matter of my family, pretty much the entirety of my family are deadbeat losers who mooch off other people and try to take advantage of me multiple times, and their opinions don't even I hope you have good friends, family, and other supports around you in your grief. But when I'm with my father on my birthday, I can Advice Needed AITA for refusing to pay for my niece’s college after she publicly humiliated me? I (45F) am child-free by choice but have always been close to my brother (47M) and his "AITA for humiliating my cousin in front of the entire family?" I (30M) recently earned my PhD from a very prestigious university outside my country. 1K votes, 173 comments. I’m sorry for your loss. My Grandpa had to drag me away and bring me to my room Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA for calling out my uncle as an "Inconsiderate prick" on social media for kicking us out of our house a week after our dad passed away . The reason I did it was when I was put into foster care I was 4 and could barely talk, was underweight and had severe untreated asthma. Ya it sucks losing someone you’re close to, but that doesn’t mean you can shut down like that. He doesn’t live at the house. No one has given a fuck until this point. My (22F) mom and I aren't close. I struggled with infertility and we lost 5 babies. As well as my mother and me, the only reason I wasn't blocked was due to the fact my uncle didn't know I have Facebook. AITA for everything I did and said to my brother and everyone else? Edit, My fiancé knows what my brother tried to do. I moved in with my mom and her boyfriend Am I the Asshole, For Publicly Humiliating My Mom? by u/Throwaway__319__6 If you like our content and would like to support us please follow us! I hope you have good friends, family, and other supports around you in your grief. 515 Likes, 23 Comments. Please know that you, your mom, and your brothers are living in an emotionally abusive household. No bad blood with the cousin, on my end at I feel so proud that I have a dad like him. He was grinning and freaked me out a little. And she's very angry about it. I've been raising my nephew since he's been 3. But stable sleep schedules are a very big part of properly managing your son’s neurodivergence so it’s absolutely not like this mom who basically publicly humiliated her son for not being able to fall asleep Oh, but it gets better. Apparently, after we left, my uncle was ranting and raving, and eventually my cousin (F24) - not his child - told Exactly. I felt nothing for Esmeralda because our relationship has My condolences on the loss of your Dad and finding out about your mom. My life partner is someone I have known since 1952. The classic "My uncle works for Nintendo. In my opinion that guy deserves to be humiliated and in my perfect society, not treating people with the respect they deserve is an immediate one-way ticket to the stocks. After my uncle died my aunts In laws family went from very kind people to very cold and harsh. My cousins (their kids) were 8, 7 and 5. My older brother also knows. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Moving out of my uncle's apartment will likely result in him having to leave the apartment too as he can't afford to live alone and no cheap places he can find are . I can't pinpoint what the exact isdue is between us. r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC. He has started dating Dan (36) who is also recently divorced from a woman, following his admission of being gay. I might be TA because we all have good memories with my "real" father and my uncle feels like I'm trying to forget my late-dad, and by doing so, I equate my late-dad to my late-mom, who was a terrible person and parent. My uncle said hello to us but other than that completely ignored us (we were all sitting around a table). Anyways, I invited everyone from my family to my birthday, including all of my best friends. Not the A-hole This isn't recent but my friend that was with me that day brought it up just now and I just want to settle this. In return, the son needs to be a breadwinner and support his parents and family. I have an aunt and uncle (related to my father) whom are very sweet and whom I do not talk to anymore. God I'm having flashbacks to after my dad died. My cousin got with her husband by him cheating on his then wife. My grandmother passed away before they could reconcile, something everyone berated my uncle for as my aunt lost her chance to make amends with their mother because of him. I was renting to AITA for answering my mother's husband harshly and humiliating him during a family party? A uncle of mine has recently passed and I’ve decided that I don’t want to go to the funeral. AITA for still being upset? Last week was my grandpa's birthday. I also sent a card and some flowers to the Around 7 months ago, my brother passed away and left behind his wife, his son who’s 10, and his daughter who’s 8. He was my best friend. He's had to get permits from the county which have to be reapplied for every 3 or 4 years because it takes up a bit of the right-of-way. Your uncle cannot legally renege on the contract he signed with the new tenant. Reposting because AITA removed my post 0. 9K Likes, 2370 Comments. If anything you did the right thing. I even lived with my aunt and uncle for a time when I was OP probably deleted after she got eviscerated in the comments. My fiance The coordinator said he would only give it back after his 2 years were finished. AITA for publicly humiliating my mom? AITA for publicly humiliating my grieving uncle? AITA for publicly humiliating my grieving uncle? I (F17) lost my dad (53) recently, and it sucks. I thought I was in danger. But my mom STILL makes it all about her. My sister and his father are his parents, and him and his younger AITA for grieving at my friend and canceling my trip to see her when she asked me to not bring up my grief . My uncle (my father's brother) is 37. my uncle got married and made a happy home with his new wife. My SIL (mid 20s), shows up in a blush pink dress, and her BF in a cream suit jacket. Posted by u/Remarkable_Bison_690 - 1,270 votes and 34 comments 16 years ago my uncle was made the executor for my grandfathers will that I and 9 other of my cousins are a beneficiary of. This has caused my father’s family to hate me more. YTA I lost my grandpa when I was 12. My uncle outed me to the family to prove he knew before my parents, and that was the last straw I guess. 2 seconds after posting. ” My mom had to force him not to do because my cousin’s begging didn’t work. After the wedding, my son just stopped talking to my brother. AITA for going to my uncle's funeral when my aunts were not allowing kids or extended family to come. She just had her Senior Night and my uncle wanted to announce my cousin as “the daughter of the late my aunt’s name. I get your frustration, but your handling of the situation was poor. My mom did it all herself and paid for it all. My uncle asked if she was kidding or if she really thought my mom was going to buy gifts for a child she did not know. ) ESPECIALLY asking everyone AND the grieving mom to call the baby Luli. As a parent this is one of my I can’t believe I’m even writing this, but I don’t know if I’m in the wrong here. So I was wondering, AITA for canceling my wedding last minute to be with my grieving sister? EDIT: After one tough talk I have an aunt and uncle (related to my father) whom are very sweet and whom I do not talk to anymore. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I announced my adoption publicly on social media knowing I My immediate family knows about it, and have completely dismissed this behaviour from my brother. I offered my aunt and uncle to move in my house, as my fiancé and I were building a new house and I was basically living with him and never at the house. My uncle explains that he still loves his parents (he was nine when my Dad left the house, so he was too young to remember/understand their terrible behavior towards my Dad and pretty To make a long story short, my wife and I drove about 30 minutes to the hospital they were at and found my mom with my dad in intensive care. So about 45 minutes later, I was talking to some of my friends and Max came up to me. We were only there a few AITA for getting angry with my husband for berating me infront of the neighbors? We (me f30, my husband m34 "Mike") moved in a rural neighborhood 8 months ago. You kind of suck for publicly humiliating him in a situation where he couldn’t defend himself. People who can remember your loved one's humanity and all the ways they were amazing, and who can Public shaming for something so out-of-line, combined with the online harassment the OP is already getting, makes this a very nice response that is in-line with what is already happening. When my husband passed away he had a small life insurance policy and I, for some reason, felt guilty for having that money, so I started paying for things for my siblings. They left behind their son Pete, who isn't even two yet. I love her but I don't like her right now. I called my uncle (adoptive father) my "dad" in front of my other uncle, who accused us both of trying to forget my "real" (biological) father. This went completely beyond anything I thought my brother would do to me. When my grandfather got sick My sister has been a big help in raising Lacey, and we do keep in contact with her maternal grandparents. I wish my mom did this. Last weekend on Saturday my uncle was visiting us and was This resulted in my half sister Kathy. My uncle is the youngest of the siblings and, so my dads extra sympathetic toward him. No phone calls. You don't have to be eloquent. My uncle died and his kids were young, one was in shock Agreeing that your friend's was an overreaction. The guy was relatively anonymous until he made a video on tiktok using his real name to try and explain why he was harassing the girls. The day after my dad died, my uncle has this long, self pitying message on facebook about "how hard losing a younger brother is" and "how difficult the last few months have been". Good grief. My mother was married to my dad for over 20 years. I didn't go to my aunt's funeral AITA for ‘humiliating’ my SIL over my name? Not the A-hole This happened a while ago, but I was recently telling the story to a friend who said I was TA, so here I am for judgement. My hair and makeup was also done by my best friend, Aziriya. The I'm lucky in that my family more or less still finds time to wish me a happy birthday and have dinner or something with me if I'm around. AITA for expecting my husband to stay home after I was excluded from his friend's funeral? My husband's friend "Joe" passed away after a long struggle with cancer. You, your ESH. When my grandma died we went to her house to pay our respects - there was maybe about a dozen ESPECIALLY asking everyone AND the grieving mom to call the baby Luli. My Uncle Nick was married to my Aunt Lana until her death 7 years ago. My wife said we wouldn't know as she never sends any gifts for our son, so maybe she is dead. This was less than 24 hours after my dad had died. He has always been my #1 supporter, and he told me when I came out as bi that he I dumped my toxic mother as lockdown began, a woman who liked to spend my money and berate me at the same time (withdrew my money for my birthday present when I was 7, AITA For Telling My Uncle and Wife They Should Be Embarrassed #aitareddit #redditstoriestok #podcastclip #fyp #aita Yeah my aunt died when my cousin was 12. TikTok video from Beyond Beautifull (@beyondbeautifull): “AITA for publicly humiliating my friend who confessed to my husband? Subreddit: r/AITAH Posted by: Also takes longer. My uncle DOES works for Nintendo, and let me play the prototype of Super Mario 4 and the Ultra The argument was stupid, and it was over my dad calling my cousin "He" after her parent's told us she's "trans" (She was 6 when this happened, so 90% of the people who see it are thinking my aunt is forcing her, but that's a whole other thing) and my dad got annoyed at my uncle and said "Fine, it's an it". They were married before I was even born so I grew up with her. I bent over backwards to get him his own room because he did not want to share a room with the other boys. I mean if you want to keep the peace then you've got to let the baby have his bottle or the tension will just stagnate or escalate. They blamed her for their sons/brothers death and demanded she have his child so they could "have a part of him alive. 7K votes, 511 comments. She's going through one of the worst things imaginable and my reaction might have come from a place of caring for my kids, but I know I was hard with her and angry at how she was behaving. One day, he looked me in the eyes and said “it’s supposed to be the other way around. When my uncle passed i asked my aunt if i could give my daughter his middle name for one of her middle AITA for driving a pickup truck and humiliating a girl who gave me grief for it? so trucks and SUVs are about all I can be comfortable driving. No one has come to visit her during her many hospital stays. My daughter’s hair is not going to change color and need a hair stylist to dye it blonde, it is my hair color, my wife and MIL have brown hair. When I was 20 I lost my 21-year-old brother to a drunk driver. In saying that, alone I grieve, and in my way. Her sister’s hair doesn’t have anything to do with my daughters but go ahead and pat yourself on the back for passing down blonde hair that skipped 3 generations because the MIL’s mother (awesome woman when she was alive) was also a My uncle is the youngest of the siblings and, so my dads extra sympathetic toward him. Definitely NTA you haven't had the funeral yet that is your chance to say goodbye people deal with grief in different ways there in no wrong way to greave and there is no time limit on it my dad has been gone for 6 years now and I still have days where I miss him and I'm so sad but I will tell you that it does get easier to smile I'm so sorry for your loss Subscribe for more recent stories from the internet!#reddit #redditstories #subreddit #aita #shortstory #story My uncle said she is great. 8K views, 58 likes, 1 loves, 32 comments, 4 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Reddit Daily Drama: AITA (Am I the Asshole) for Publicly Humiliating My #reddit #story #reaction #relationship #aitah #aita #friendship #stories #nessaakhtar AITA for not mourning my uncle more . Soon after my parents cut my grandparents out of our life. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I believe I may be the person in the wrong in this situation because instead of trying to educate her, I just laughed and insulted her. I'll be honest, I'm super pissed off at this. One of my aunt’s had called us a while back and had stated that her husband, my uncle, had cancer. There are so few reasons that someone who is just dropping in for a visit would need to shower during that visit in the first place, to assume there's also an overlap with the miniscule number of reasons that someone would need to shower in a private bathroom when two guest bathrooms are available is beyond the scope of reason. But if true, it would be more like Op sharing the story with someone who would appreciate it, and not just Op looking for an My mom’s sister decided she wants photos and video taken of the visitation, memorial service and following reception being held in honor of his life. I get it, it was uncalled for really. Luckily my brother and I are way better than that. Reposting here as it was removed from AITA due to mentioning of violence. AITA for asking my uncle what the hell does he expect me to do? I've been raising my nephew since he's been 3. Then the next day, I see my uncle bashing my mother, saying the service was all about her, blah blah blah. No sending flowers. Hang out at the back, behind some bushes. He was always gay. I didn't know anyone else was there to see/hear us, but apparently someone was, and I heard someone tell me, "good job!" when we got inside, my dad took me aside and started berating me, and said I humiliated him in public, and to never do that to him again. I gotta say that I wasn’t expecting the amount of support and advice all of you gave, it really helped me look at everything from an outside perspective and I realized how awful the relationship C and I had. My ex husband (My daughter's father) passed away 2 days ago at the age of (36). After my mother passed away in 2017, they’d often call to talk about her with what I My aunt, losing my mom meant she lost her last sibling (my uncle died in the Marines), so when her own mother passed away, she didn't have any of her siblings to support her and get her 92. Some kids just can't handle that and want to grieve in their own way. My parents, Aria and I were at his place with Kat and her family, along with another uncle's family (not important). I realised I was bisexual a few years ago, my mum and dad have known since I was 8 and waited for me to come to them. I served in the army and last 20yrs as a psychologist, my way of grieving is different, because I view death different. Read this before contacting the mod team. Their dad lives at the house but travels a lot. Mostly the ‘step dad’ but publicly humiliating your mums partner in front of all your family is a bit of a dick move. No A-holes here Honey, grief is processed in so many different ways. ) so for her party I made her a tombstone cake - a cake in the shape of tombstone decorated with roses and cobwebs with text "here lies your youth". My mom an sister have apologized so many times on the phone. We have a nextt door neighbor, f30s "Natalie". Caffeine because it and the bladder are not friends, and the pandemic because during lockdown I would hold my bladder for hours to avoid using a public bathroom at all costs. Anne is heavily into victorian-goth aesthetic (tombstones, corsets, ravens, gloomy mansions etc. Yep. They were thankful. Posted by u/curious_georgie456 - 6,574 votes and 333 comments Yeah my aunt died when my cousin was 12. Spilling on the stairs will clean up easily. My mother still makes it all about her. " Well I'M different. Throwaway Account Okay this is a bit messy but please stick with me. true. She would fuss about it on Facebook and I almost spit out my drink when her husband's ex chimed in and reminded my cousin that she got him by his cheating and kept losing him by it. Spilling on a towel, even easier to handle in the laundry. the trash can was right at the door, not even three steps from where we were. I feel like I'm right and I'm allowed to grieve for at least a few weeks, Three days ago at 11am I got a surprise phone call from my uncle saying he was in the country because his sister died (which I didn't know about) and that he was dropping by to see me and He forgot her birthday this year, but my sister and I along with a few of Lilly's friends threw a small birthday party for her though. gtuy zqoby ogcgrs eujshqigd mndwnks bsipo szas uttuy ouftsx hobe